I posted this in the GD thread. I tried to think of something to say here for Jeff, but it kept coming out pretty much the same as what I'd already said. Suffice to say I'm glad I was able to see Jeff a couple times; I hope it did some good for him, but I know it did more for me.
I got to visit with Jeff a couple times over the last few weeks. The first time, it was just the two of us. He was coughing a lot but he could communicate pretty well. We talked about the site a lot, and he was...worried isn't the right word, concerned maybe?...that his initial post in this thread came across as whining. That's the word he used. He didn't want people to think he was a whiner. I assured him that it certainly didn't come across that way (I honestly don't think it sounds whiny at all) and I told him that through that one post, he had a greater effect on this website than anything I've seen since 1999. I told him about all the people who had said they'd become better husbands or fathers. The people who had found or come back to God, or had their faith strengthened by his example. I told him that just the financial outpouring that we saw through the gofundme drive provided proof that people here had come together like never before.
I don't know what it was about Jeff's post that triggered such things around here. The best I can come up with is that it was just honest; he wasn't blustering, or putting up pretenses, or anything else. It was just a lonely, scared guy at 4:00 a.m. reaching out to people he saw as friends because he needed a shoulder. People saw that and responded to it. The response that he got was, in my opinion, this place's finest hour.
I can't imagine what Reta, Travis, and the rest of his family are going through right now. My heart breaks for Travis, losing his father so young. I hope it provides some measure of comfort to Reta, that she can hopefully pass on to Travis some day, to know what effect Jeff had on so many people here. At the end of the day, when we're gone all we leave behind is our legacy. Jeff and his family can be proud of what he did here through his honesty and his example of faith.