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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:34:58 AM EDT
[#1]
Some really great advice in this thread. So, I'll just send my condolences, and prayers, to you and your loved ones.
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USA
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:37:05 AM EDT
[Last Edit: JamesP81]
[#2]
Sorry Hourglassing
 I don't even know what to say about something like that. I will remember you and your family in my prayers.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:41:48 AM EDT
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Wow-there's a lot of intense pain in this thread, and not just the OPs. To all of you that have lost a child or loved one, my heart goes out to you-I cannot imagine the pain. I'm very sorry you've had to endure this. OP, I don't have anything useful to say other than we're thinking of your family and praying for you.
While we all hate to hear of these things, thank you for keeping us updated. You deserve our support. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:43:31 AM EDT
[#4]
IM sent.
Unfortunately, I have experienced this pain also. My household will be praying for you. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:47:24 AM EDT
[#5]
I have no words for this.
I'm sorry. 
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:51:08 AM EDT
[#6]
I can't even imagine......prayers sent
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:51:43 AM EDT
[#7]
Originally Posted By hourglassing:
I haven't posted in some time, for reasons obvious below. Some of you may remember this picture, it's appeared here a few times, to various comments. It's my daughter Emily. She got a kick over the pic showing up here, and I always asked her permission if I saw it and wanted to comment in the thread it was in. http://i1311.photobucket.com/albums/s672/hourglassing/30bfcd682c0c3b68412705e7bd032614.jpg She died on November 12, 2012. We don't know why, the coroners report has still not been released, but suspect a heart arythmia based on the reported symptoms. I am still destroyed. If not for her brother and sisters, I would have probably had to sell all my guns to reduce the temptation to... Well best not to go there. Thanksgiving was a nightmare. Christmas at the in laws was good for my wife and family, but still a hell for me. I miss her every day, and cry just about every day. My religious beliefs have been sorely challenged. How can God take this sweet child and let monsters still walk the earth. However I do believe in an afterlife, and pray to God to shepherd her soul. Those who post here that there is nothing beyond this life; I defy you to hold to that thesis after losing a child. It's been a hard few months. Emily's sister fell in September and shattered her backbone; she is mostly fully recovered with a fist full of Ti-6-4 in her back, but it was touch and go for about three weeks. After Emily's death three friends and acquaintances died by their own hands, leaving teenage children behind in each case, and me in a state of shock. I used to keep to the mantra that hard work and clean living ensured that things generally work out for the best. Now I'm not sure what to hold to. I find myself entering a panic attack each time the phone rings from one of my kids, in fear that some fresh hell is about to be visited upon them and me. "Hello" has been replaced with "is everything okay" as my default greeting. I worry constantly about them when they are away. I know this is irrational, but cannot shake it. Anyway, thats where I am now. If you have kids, even adult ones, take every opportunity to tell them you love them, even when they say hurtful things, or frustrate you in some way. Hourglassing. OP-- I lost someone terribly close to me in a tragic accident, one that was very sudden and very unexpected. Every single day, I see his mother try awfully hard to "undo" the damage she did while he was alive. She ignored him, showed intense favoritism toward his sibling, and just generally was a very unsupportive parent for a very long time. He hated her most of his adult life, and she did her best to keep him at arm's length. I want very badly to tell this woman that her words are too little too late. If you told your daughter you loved her and had a good relationship with her you can feel comfortable knowing that she died knowing you did. I can't say the same for the person I knew. I only hope in his last few moments he was at peace and still is. Don't beat yourself up asking "why". The question is likely never to be answered until you're gone from this earth and reunited with your daughter. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:51:44 AM EDT
[#8]
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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TN, USA
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:57:35 AM EDT
[#9]
Thanks for your insight, and reminders. I have a 22 yr old son that tries my patience, but nothing in comparison to your experience, sir. Stay strong, just the fact that your're able to post about it is indication of a strong core. Stay in the loop.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 10:58:56 AM EDT
[#10]
I am very sorry to hear this.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:02:37 AM EDT
[#11]
Sorry to hear this sir...
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:04:21 AM EDT
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Hang in there buddy. In the last few months I have lost my dad, a close friend and now have to put my 64 year old mother in assisted living because she is unable to care for herself. It's nothing compared to loosing a child, but I understand that every day is a new battle... We all have doubts about pressing forward when we are in these holes, but life is too damn precious... You are doing the right thing by reaching out here, I hope you are also doing it in your 'real' life. The support of your friends and family are whats going to keep you afloat durring this storm. Take them up on every offer of help and conversation. Look for the beauty in every sunrise, every birds chirp, every cloud moving across the sky, for your daughter is right there, talking to you.
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TX, USA
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:04:37 AM EDT
[#13]
Prayers for you and your family's strength sent, along with condolences.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:05:42 AM EDT
[#14]
Originally Posted By goodmedicine: I can't even imagine......prayers sent So sorry. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:12:18 AM EDT
[#15]
I read the OP and the first thing I think about is losing my baby girl (12) I can't imagine
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TX, USA
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:13:38 AM EDT
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I posted earlier about the death of my teenaged son.
I lost both of my parents to cancer when I was a teenager. Compared to the death of my son, those losses are not worthy of a second thought. Hourglasser, I hurt for you and for all of us who have lost a child. As I tell my wife of 18 months (who lost her beloved father to cancer and had her previous husband drop dead in front of her of a heart attack), you CANNOT imagine the pain until you suffer it. And then you can't describe it to anyone who has not gone along the same path. Those of us who continue to experience the death of a child have an unspoken bond which in some ways makes us as close as good family even if you have just met. Please pray for the grieving. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:19:31 AM EDT
[#17]
I can't even imagine....
Try to stay strong, so sorry for your loss. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:20:44 AM EDT
[#18]
Wow, I am so sorry for your loss..... I will keep you and your family in my prayers!
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:24:02 AM EDT
[#19]
Oh no. So very sorry to read this.
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:35:55 AM EDT
[Last Edit: Amped]
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I am very sorry for your loss, losing family is and will never be easy. May she rest in peace
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:49:44 AM EDT
[#21]
I am very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine losing a child. I have lost close family members and I also lost a very dear uncle to a head on collision with a drunk driver.
It is very difficult to live with the grief. The only way to get through the grief is to go through the grief. It is difficult to wake up with every day. I know you may be mad at Him right now, but please know that you can find comfort in the Lord. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:12:00 PM EDT
[#22]
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter and the hurt your other daughter has been going through. No doubt you are are hurting and I wish I had the capability to help ease you from it but I don't. I can only offer a simple prayer for you and your family to have rest and healing. And hopefully each day gets somehow a little better. Please accept all our prayers. |
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AL, USA
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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:22:07 PM EDT
[#23]
Devastating. Prayers sent. My heart breaks for your loss.
I know you and your family's lives will never be the same. God bless, Bryant |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:30:02 PM EDT
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Nothing is harder than outliving your child. Nothing. The only comfort to be found being the belief that God loved them so much that he wouldn't allow them to be subjected to the evil in this world. Prayers sent that you can retain your faith in God's wisdom and His Love. |
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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:34:34 PM EDT
[#25]
I am very sorry for your loss
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Posted: 1/28/2013 12:52:02 PM EDT
[#26]
God bless you and your family! I am so sorry for your loss!! I have have 2 boys and we would be devastated if they were taken from us!!
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Posted: 1/28/2013 11:58:43 PM EDT
[#27]
I do remember her picture. I'm so sorry
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WI, USA
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:02:39 AM EDT
[#28]
So sorry for your loss...no words.
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:05:14 AM EDT
[#29]
I hope you find peace in your life after such a loss.
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:10:51 AM EDT
[#30]
So sorry for your loss. |
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MS, USA
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:19:58 AM EDT
[#31]
My wife lost her first husband and an 18 month old child in a car wreck.
No matter how bad things are, and they get bad....they could always be worse. Prayers sent.. |
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:24:23 AM EDT
[#32]
Sorry for your loss.
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:29:44 AM EDT
[#33]
Man, I can't imagine what you are going through. My kids are 3 and 5. Thoughts are with you.
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Posted: 1/29/2013 12:59:07 AM EDT
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Hourglass, I weep with you. Hold on to your faith and don't let the enemy talk you into giving up.
You will be together again in His timing, and all tears will be wiped away. Psalm 23 by Jeff Majors I'm praying for you my brother. |
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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:00:04 AM EDT
[#35]
Deepest condolences... you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers...
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AR, USA
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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:09:41 AM EDT
[#36]
Prayers sent everytime I see this. For all that have lost a child or anyone for that matter.
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MN, USA
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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:15:52 AM EDT
[#37]
OP
I am so sad to read this. Stay strong. Don't EVER stop talking to people. |
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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:18:41 AM EDT
[#38]
Two months ago I lost a son five days after his birth.
I wish I had got to know him. Keep strong. God bless. |
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Posted: 1/29/2013 1:24:42 AM EDT
[#39]
There is nothing I can say.
I'm sorry.
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FL, USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:25:03 AM EDT
[#40]
My prayers have been with you since I read your post. I have had to tell my parents that their son had died. It is not the proper order of things. It takes some time before the anxiety subsides, but to some degree it will.
You raised a beautiful, intelligent, and humorous daughter by all accounts. We do not get to decide how long our time on this earth will be. You and Emily live in each of us here, until the day you join her again. Remember all of the great things about Emily – celebrate her and her life! |
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NY, USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:31:25 AM EDT
[#41]
May God walk with you, and hold you up when you need it. We may not always feel him, but he is always there for us.
You have my deepest sympathy. |
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OH, USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:33:51 AM EDT
[#42]
Your a stronger man than I. I could not bear to lose one of my daughters. My deepest condolences. You know we are all here for you if you ever need to talk.
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USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:34:19 AM EDT
[#43]
Sorry for your loss.
Prayers sent. |
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TX, USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:36:28 AM EDT
[#44]
OP you have my best wishes for yourself and family, and I was sure to say a prayer.
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:37:04 AM EDT
[#45]
Hourglassing, please accept my condolences.
I am truly sorry for your loss. |
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:37:13 AM EDT
[#46]
Condolences and prayers sent. Stay strong brother. |
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TX, USA
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:37:50 AM EDT
[#47]
Prayers for you and your family during this time of sorrow. Sorry for your loss.
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:38:55 AM EDT
[#48]
These things try men's souls. So very sorry for your loss, nothing can be hard ever. |
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:39:32 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/31/2013 12:43:11 AM EDT
[#50]
Heart breaking. You are stronger than I OP. live for the rest of your family.
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